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Stress Relief Tip -Learn How to Love Yourself

In the most stressful of days, everyone needs some for that famous TLC, or what is more commonly known as tender love and care. When you feel like you’re about to jump out of your skin, tear your hair out, and throw yourself out a window, maybe it’s time to mentally remove yourself from the situation and see things in a bigger and better perspective. Stress cannot be avoided, as much as you would like to at all costs. However there are responsibilities you just can’t ignore, and unfortunately, some of these are accompanied by anxiety.

Sometimes giving up just seems to be the best solution. Unfortunately, taking the easy way out is often the worst thing you could do. Yes, you have to learn how to let go, but a lot of things just can’t be solved that way. What do you do when the time comes that you have to deal with everything, face up to your decisions, and take all the consequences? Running away is certainly not an option. This is the coward’s way out. Just remember, being scared is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s what you do when you’re faced with fear that counts. When you successfully deal with bad situations, take the time to treat yourself with a reward. It helps inspire you to do better every time a form of harassment comes into your life.

One thing many people resort to when they need to unwind is have themselves a “spa day.” The term intrinsically assumes the idea of health. Thus, many believe this to be a wisely spent day. A day of relaxation trumps anything that comes next. This is the ultimate way to spoil yourself, a way to reward yourself for all your hard work. Unfortunately, spending the day at a spa can be costly. It only affirms the notion that all good things come at a price. The good news is, this doesn’t have to be the case. As a matter of fact, there are more than hundreds of ways to celebrate your triumphs, many of which require little or no money.

When things become too rough to handle, a walk in the park does wonders. The nice fresh air and the smell of flowers is nature’s version of an energy drink. If the park isn’t your thing, maybe you can call friends and ask them out to a movie. If that still doesn’t cut it, a day spent at the beach should do the trick. The idea is to do the things you love. Rewards aren’t there to tell you to get your wallets out and spend. The idea behind it is to let you feel that you are also worth something and that you deserve the goodness in life because you’ve been a responsible person. Whatever it is that you like, you have to set aside some quality time for it so you are able to see things clearly and in there perspective after you're refreshed.

A good method to use is to have a list of things you must accomplish in say, 10 years. Include things that are not necessarily related to work. Make it as holistic as possible, bearing in mind that you also need to spend time with those who are close to you on a more personal level. After all, pampering is not a benefit that only some of us should enjoy, it’s everybody’s birthright!

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Stress Relief Tips | Stop Being a People Pleaser
by: Anonymous

Some people just can?t help but go out of their way just to make other people happy. They do their best to bend over backwards just to give in to the demands of others, even if this means forgetting about their own needs along the way.

When you become this kind of person, two things can happen: either you will annoy other people because you try to please others too much, or worse, you will meet people who want your friendship just to get favors.

Do you find yourself to be this kind of person at times? Have you hidden your true self in order to survive the peer pressure?

These people pleasers are otherwise known as adapters. A lot of these people who were willing to let others use them were most likely raised in an environment where their opinions were not valued.

Or they may have been neglected too often that they see themselves as an unimportant part of society. In order to earn their place, they mistakenly thought that they had to forget who they were just to bend to the will of others.

People pleasers focus mostly on others and not what is inside their own hearts and minds. If you become this kind of person, you will eventually feel lonely and empty deep down.

You may have earned friends, but deep down, you will always doubt their real intentions. You will feel like there should be more to life and don?t exactly know what you are in search of.

You need to get out of this unhealthy pattern. Know that it is very possible to change so that you can finally feel better about yourself and know what you truly deserve.

First off, you need to learn how to say NO. This very important word is what frees you from the chains you?ve created for your life.

Say it as often as you can, just to hear the word come out of your mouth. Of course, you can also be more polite about it, but nonetheless, you have to know when to stop and put your own needs ahead.

You may also feel guilty at times, but you?ll get to see who your real friends are in the very end.

Your state of mind is well worth the effort because when you have a healthy point of view, those around you will be healthy as well. Your thoughts and emotions are an important part of who you are.

When you are unsure of yourself and try too hard to become the kind of person others want you to be, you?ll lose what matters most: your dignity and self-respect.

Many people pleasers wrongly believe that nobody will like them if they stop doing things for others. If someone stops liking you just because you?ve learned how to say no, then chances are they weren?t really your friends to begin with.

Don?t allow yourself to become anyone?s puppet. Free yourself from the fear of rejection because ironically, it is only then will you become loved and accepted. Who is running your life? The answer should be you!

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